Happy Valentine’s Day! (Eve, eve. 😀 ) It’s no secret that my husband and I aren’t into Valentine’s Day at all. I’m talking Valentine’s schmalentines. For the record, our feelings towards this hallmark holiday has nothing to do with deep rooted bitterness that stems from a past experience. We’re just not into it. I’ve always been the girl that march to her own drummer. Status quo who? LOL I’ve never been into flowers, dressing up, make-up, and days set aside to celebrate love. I couldn’t stand when we were forced to pass out those silly VDay cards in elementary school. However, I assure you if either of us were into it, we would go all out for each other, which is what this blog is about. My husband and I go waaaaay back. We met our senior year in high school so that’s eons ago. Okay, that’s a ridiculous exaggeration, but you get my drift. We’ve been married for almost 17 years and this year is the first time we are actually doing something for VDay. And that’s only because it’s an event that was organized by a couple at our church. We like to show our support.
Of course I have a story before I get into my point. One year around Vday many years ago, there was this guy who was digging me in one of my classes. He was a nice guy, but I had just became a Christian and wasn’t interested in dating. My main focus was Christ and finishing college. I never showed any interest in the guy, but everyday after class he would ask me if he could give me a ride. I would politely decline and then hop on the bus to go to work. One day when I got to work, my supervisor said I had a visitor which was very strange. When I got to the lobby, the guy from my class was standing there waiting for me with a bouquet of flowers and a box of candy. The ladies in the office went nuts while telling me how lucky I was that my “boyfriend” was so thoughtful and sweet. Okay, so here’s where I differ from my fellow women peeps. My first reaction WAS NOT awww how sweet. I had a hidden reaction in my mind behind a smile, “whatchoo doing here foo?” There’s no denying that the gesture was kind, but to me there was definitely an added creep factor. After thanking him, I asked how he knew where I worked. He said he followed me to work a few times. Ummm gulp and ZOINKS! LOL Of course he left because I had to get back to work. My coworkers didn’t seem bothered by the fact that he had been FOLLOWING ME!! I’ll just leave this right here. 😀
I have three points:
- If your spouse wants to celebrate Valentine’s Day, but you’re not really into it, DO IT ANYWAY AS IF YOU ARE SO INTO IT THAT YOU WOULD LOOK OVER A CRAZY STALKER DUDE TO GET CANDY AND FLOWERS. LOL 😀 Don’t say how stupid and lame you think it is because that’s like saying you think your spouse is stupid and lame. Valentine’s Day is on the same day every year. Don’t wait until the last minute to buy him or her a gift just because you’re not into it. There’s a book called the 5 Love Languages. One of the love languages mentioned is receiving gifts. Your spouse’s love language may be receiving gifts. If you want to know more about the 5 Love Languages, click on the following link: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
- Please remember that Valentine’s Day is not a big o band aid for your relationship. If you’ve upset your spouse and haven’t resolved the issue, giving candy and flowers or going out to dinner will not make your situation better. Not even jewelry, even if you go to Jared. LOL Now if you go to Tiffany’s, it will buy at least a week of peace. LOL I jest! 😀
- Don’t base your relationship on what he gives or not give you for Valentine’s Day. Love each other everyday like it’s your last. 1 Peter 4: 8 says, Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins. If you really love VDay, communicate with your spouse in love. Tell him/her what you want, what you really really want. (Spice Girls LOL)