We Love Them

THEY’VE ARRIVED, AND WE LOVE THEM!! I mentioned in my last post that we ordered four face masks from my niece, Brittney C. Grant, at B. Chantel Designs. As you can see in the picture above, they are cute and fit perfectly. Also, these masks can be adjusted to combat foggy lenses if you wear glasses like us. There’s a thicker material behind the design.

mask details

We ordered six more. 🙂 To order yours, go to www.bchanteldesigns.com.

Wearing face masks is our new normal. Don’t get caught up in all the false information and theories that are floating around. There are some facts and guidelines that we must follow. We believe in being obedient as we trust in Jesus. Stay home if you can, but if you have to go out, wear a face mask. I still work with the public, and I follow all requirements and recommendations.

I’m not exempt. . .

I’m just blogging it out! Oh, and spend more time with Jesus today.




New Normal

11 Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. 12 I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. 13 For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:11-13 NLT)

Happy Sunday! New normal-online church for everyone and toilet paper is more valuable than gold. Who woulda thunk it? LOL

We gave up looking for toilet paper weeks ago and figured if we had run out, we’d improvise. Last Thursday morning (We were down to 6 rolls.) I decided to visit our local Walmart for a few items. With gloved covered hands, I strolled down the aisles, trying to physically distance myself from fellow shoppers. I peeked around corners avoiding the most populated aisles.

peekin gif LOL Obedience and wisdom, not fear!

Anyhoo, I noticed several people had toilet paper in their carts, but thought they were the people who waited in the parking lot for hours before the store opened. Then I realized that every cart had a pack of TP. I thought, “Maybe, just maybe, today is the day that I will buy TP.” I didn’t want to get my hopes up, so I played it cool as long as I could. But the anticipation got the better of me. LOL

pushing shopping cart

It was the day. 🙂 We got TP! I walked out of Walmart with a pep in my step. Naw, not really. But as I loaded the groceries in the car, a guy who parked next to me opened his trunk to retrieve his reusable bags. I told him there was toilet paper. His eyebrows crinkled as he squinted his eyes. He asked, “Is there a long line?” Almost as if he expected me to say yes. Clearly, he had experienced standing in the anaconda line at Costco only to find out they were sold out. I said, “No, but go there first.” He broke out into a full sprint as he yelled, “A’ight, thanks!” 🙂

I imagined that he, like us, had given up on buying toilet paper. There was no way he was going to stand in that Costco line again or any toilet paper line for that matter. Maybe his wife had sent him to Walmart for diapers or eggs or milk. Boy, she’ll be happy to see that Angel Soft tissue. LOL

While toilet paper is a hot commodity these days, it is far less critical in comparison to some of the more severe issues the COVID-19 global crisis has caused. People are panicking, which leads to stress, which leads to a lower immune system (among other things), which leads to sickness and disease. THIS PANDEMIC IS A REAL REASON TO BE CONCERNED! I chose Philippians 4:11-13 for this post because these verses are what I like to call, “IN YO FACE” verses. Why? Because Paul is telling us that we can endure any situation as long as we focus and rely on our Lord. Is there a better choice? We have to spend time with Jesus for strength. I believe most of us have more time on our hands than ever before.



Even if we don’t have extra time, as believers, we are to make spending time with Jesus a priority. It’s for our benefit. He’s not a genie waiting for us to rub a lamp so he can make an appearance. He’s with us! I’m not saying we should ignore what’s going on in the world. I’m saying, whatever is going on, trust God. To trust Him, we have to know Him. To know Him, we have to spend time with Him. It is the enemy’s job to distract us, and frankly, he’s good at it, but only if we give him the power. If you find that you’re consumed by fear during this time, #CheckYourHeart. Turn back to the Father and rest in His presence. DON’T GIVE UP YOUR JOY AND PEACE! 

Okay, last thing. Do you have a shower song? A song that you play while you’re taking a shower? Right now, mine is Love Theory by Kirk Franklin. There’s a part of the song that explains what I’m trying to say.

Loving You will be
Will be the death of me
That’s how it’s supposed to be
More of You, less of me.

More of Him, less of us. If we stop trying to handle things without Jesus, we will be love giving joy spreading peace walking patience practicing kind and gentle acting good doing faithful self-controlled people of the Most High King! Yeah, I know, that was wordy. Hopefully, it made you smile.

I’m not exempt . . .

I’m just blogging it out! Oh, and my niece, B. Chantel Designs, makes face masks. Click the link then scroll down to see her masks. I bought 4. 🙂



Wisdom & Trust

You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You. (Isaiah 26:3)

It’s March, Daylight saving time, and all the toilet paper and paper towels in the whole world are GONE! Okay, I’m exaggerating a bit, but the stores in my area, including Costco, have zippo on their shelves. There’s no hand sanitizer or alcohol either, but that doesn’t surprise me as much as the paper shortage. I get the fact that it’s recommended that you have at least fourteen-days worth of necessities in case you’re quarantined. But is toilet paper really a necessity? Have people forgotten about good old soap and water?

tom shrug LOL

Speaking of soap and water, according to the CDC washing our hands is one of the best ways to prevent the spread of the coronavirus. I work with the public and can’t always get away to wash my hands, so I had to make my own hand sanitizer because the same people who bought all the toilet paper bought all the hand sanitizer and alcohol too. 🙂

***DIY Hand Sanitizer: 2/3 c rubbing 99% isopropyl alcohol (or above 60% will due.) and 1/3 c aloe vera gel***

It’s an unusual time for all of us, but it definitely did not catch God by surprise. We have to use Wisdom and Trust Jesus.

I’m not exempt. I’m just. . .

Blogging it out!

Read Psalm 91

Happy New Year and Decade!

20 Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, 21 to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen. Ephesians 3:20,21 NKJV

A new year including an extra day, yes, it’s a leap year and a new decade. I’m not one to associate a new calendar year with new beginnings, per se. I mean, last night, as we struggled to keep our eyes open until the ball dropped and the clock changed from pm to am, our lives didn’t start over. I am grateful that the Lord allowed me to make it to this point, and I do, however, like to reflect on the last 365 days. 2019 was a great year, and I am looking forward to every day I am blessed to be here.

Speaking of reflection, can I take a few seconds to write about these homemade rolls from scratch I made over the holiday season? Check out the pic below.


I’m really not one to brag, BUT these rolls make you want to find some gravy to sop. 🙂 And I don’t even eat gravy. LOL So good! yummy

Seriously, though, 2019 was fantastic for many, many reasons. The most meaningful isn’t glamorous, and the people who I come in contact with regularly have heard me say a bazillion times before. “The peace that you gain from having an intimate relationship with our Lord, Jesus Christ, trumps any accomplishment in my life.” ~Me

I’m looking forward to continuous growth in Him.

Ephesians 4:22-24 NLT says, 22 throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. 23 Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. 24 Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.

Antoine and I teach a class at our church. I get a kick out of sharing with the attendees my life experiences following half of the Word. (Half is generous. LOL) Kind of what I do here on this blog, but way more animated in real life. 🙂 One of the things I mention frequently is the struggle I had because although I received Christ, I didn’t fully surrender all or accept the fact that I would spend the rest of my life surrendering crap as it surfaces. So, I spent A LOT of time in a state that I haven’t named yet. LOL  Basically, stressed and void of any lasting peace.

rock em sock em robots LOL Moving and wearing myself out. Like, whatchoo you doin’? Huh, whatchoo doin’?

Now, don’t get me wrong. My walk is far from perfect. But here’s the thing, I have to RELENTLESSLY seek after Jesus. EFFORT!! EFFORT!!

Isaiah 26:3 says, You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in You, all whose thoughts are fixed on You!

Here’s a second thing. 🙂 That verse was a go-to verse in the past, but the difference between now and then is effort. I spent years saying a lot but putting in little effort. You can’t have perfect peace just because you can recite a Bible verse or listen to a sermon about it no more than you can lose weight only by claiming you will and watching an exercise class. You have to do something.


James 1:22 But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves.

James 4:7, Therefore, submit to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

I spent so much time fooling myself, and I definitely lacked in the submission department, holding on to stuff. (Pet peeves, bad attitude, etc.)

As I tell the folks in our class, learn from my mistakes. LOL

Well, day one of 366 is just about over. As we move forward, we have to remember who our Source is and keep Him first. And to those people who try to make us Jesus juniors in their lives, point them to the Lord, who is our Source, and pray for them. We’re all creations and may be used by God, but we all have to make an effort to know Him for ourselves. Right?

My prayer for you and me for 2020 is what the Apostle Paul wrote/prayed in Ephesians 3:14-21. Read it, and don’t forget to #CheckYourHeart.

I’m not exempt, I’m just . . .

Blogging it out.

Goofy pics below.


2019 4
Scout didn’t want to take a picture. LOL





Take 1
Take 1. Move your hand, Toine. LOL


It’s A Lifestyle

Enter his gates with thanksgiving; go into his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and praise his name. For the Lord is good. His unfailing love continues forever, and his faithfulness continues to each generation.

Antoine and I decided to brave the wild with Scout in the mountains. Ahhh, the great outdoors, tall trees, a beautiful lake, and fresh, crisp air. No phones, no WiFi, just us, and a nice cozy RV. 🙂 Sometimes, you need to disappear and what better time than our 20th wedding anniversary.

The Serrano Camp Ground provided us with a spacious campsite equipped with a picnic table and a firepit. Autumn is my favorite season, but in Southern California, where we live, summer weather, hot and dry, is the norm in October. Big Bear mimicked the midwestern autumn from my childhood, cool and breezy. Perfect weather for long walks and conversation, perfect for us. See the photo above for reference. LOL

BUT THERE’S NO PLACE LIKE HOME!!! As you see in the picture below, Scout agrees. 🙂


scout on the big joe 10-2019
Scout liked being in the mountains, but she couldn’t wait to sleep on one of her favorite spots in the house, The Big Joe.

As much as I love Antoine and as much as he loves me, we love the Lord more. That’s right, folks. This is by far the most crucial part of our marriage, and I’m not writing it just to fill up the page. Putting the Lord first sounds simple enough, right? My reality is that it took me a long time to realize that my actions didn’t always line up with my words. How’s that for transparency? But wait, there’s more! Not really. I just always wanted to say that. 🙂

All you need to know is that once I understood and received God’s love and grace, I put Antoine exactly where he belongs. LOL Check it, as much as I love how he sees me, how God sees me is far more important. My validation and confidence come from the Lord. He’s my Source, my Creator, my Savior, and I am who He says I am. (There’s a beautiful song by Hillsong called Who You Say I Am. Click here to listen.)

We are grateful that the Lord blessed us with 20 years of marriage and look forward to the years to come. We will ALWAYS keep Jesus first in our lives (That doesn’t equal perfection. We’re NOTHING without Him.) and in our marriage. It’s not just lip service, It’s A Lifestyle.

If you’re wondering if God is first in your life, #CheckYourHeart.

I’m not exempt. I’m just . . .

Blogging It Out

Just Love Him Back

But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)

I had the pleasure of having a conversation with someone who had received Christ three months ago. Let’s call him Bill. Bill told me that although he was excited about his new life in Christ, he felt like he was walking on eggshells. Bill further explained that he felt like no matter how hard he tried, he frequently made mistakes (sinned) and didn’t know how God felt about him.

Before I knew it, I jumped on my chair, and with a resounding voice, I said, “HE LOVES YOU, BILL!!!!” LOL     tom cruise jumping on couch

Okay, my response was nowhere near as dramatic. 🙂 I did tell Bill how much God loves him, and that He knew he would sin, which is precisely why Jesus came. We discussed the fact that we are saved by grace through faith, and there is nothing we can do to earn salvation.  Of course, I explained that grace doesn’t give us a license to sin and what true repentance is. He didn’t quite grasp it right away. It wasn’t until I said, “There’s absolutely nothing you can do to make God love you any more or any less.” that he seemed to kind of understand.

Bill’s eyes squinted as his gaze shifted to the sky. I knew he was pondering something, but I just waited until he was ready to share. After about a minute, he asked, “What am I supposed to do when I’m struggling?” And then he elaborated a bit.

My answer to his question, “Just Love Him Back. You spend time with the ones you love.” He responded with a nod.

The more time we spend with God, reading, studying, and meditating on the Word, praying, listening, submitting to His will, the stronger we become through Christ. Before we receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior, we are full of crap, and the enemy knows it. He tempts us based on our sinful nature, our struggles. How do we get rid of that crap? By loving God more than the crap. We have to submit to Him. It takes effort, a lot of effort, daily effort. And if you’re anything like me, by the second effort. 🙂 Just keeping it real.

James 4:7 says, Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

That’s a conversation that you’d expect from a new believer, right? Yeah, but I wonder how many Christians know, I mean really know how much God loves them. It wasn’t until I received God’s love by faith that I experienced true freedom. Does this mean that I won’t experience trials and that the enemy won’t try to tempt me? Hecky naw!! It means that I understand the pure fact that God loves me UNCONDITIONALLY because He wants to. Simple as that.

I’m not sure if Bill has completely grasped everything we talked about, but I’m confident that a seed was planted.

*****Confession time***** I have to admit, I was hoping one of the Christian men working that day would rescue me from that conversation. I mean, surely they heard what we were talking about because they walked by a few times. I even tried to get one of them to join the convo, but nope. Um, HELLO!! I’m not a man. Come talk to dis dude!! LOL I didn’t say that, but I was sho think’n it. (Excuse the slang. I included it to provoke laughter.) I dismissed that moment of pass-the-buck-itis and shifted my focus back to the Lord. He’ll use whoever is available. I did encourage some of the men to look after him, though.****Confession time over****

I pray whoever reads this knows how much Jesus loves you. If you don’t, #CheckYourHeart. That’s a fact you don’t want to ignore.

I’m not exempt . . .

I’m just Blogging It Out. Oh, and Happy FriYay!


24 Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, 25 To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen. (Jude 24, 25)

It’s that time of the year again—MY BIRTHDAY! 

FunnyBirthday HOORAY!!

Thank you, Jesus, for allowing me to celebrate another year of life. I’m grateful for every single experience because, without them, I wouldn’t be where I am today, feeling more alive than ever. Isaiah 26:3 says, Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

No explanation needed, right? Our God is AWESOME!! Trust Him!!

I pray that every person who reads this post will walk in His peace & strength, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you in every area of your life. Receive His love, grace, and mercy. In Jesus’ mighty and matchless name. AMEN!

If you find yourself frustrated, depressed, or feeling defeated, #CheckYourHeart. There’s hope in Christ, but you have to focus and connect with Him daily. He’s our lifeline and source.

I’m not exempt, I’m just . . .

Blogging It Out!!


Guts Not To Fight Back

17 Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. 18 Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. (Romans 12:17-18)

Aloha! My husband and I just got back from Hawai’i, which explains the picture. For the first time in years, I traveled without a laptop and social media. It felt good to be completely present and focused on why we were there—my nephew’s wedding and to spend time with friends and family.

We had a great time. I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fact that my nephew, whom I still call Li’l Brian, is married. Seems like only yesterday I was giving him a wedgie. LOL

And now the #checkyourheart topic . . .

I’ll try to make a very long story as short as possible. In a nutshell, I decided to give Airbnb a try based on a couple of recommendations. The place I chose turned out to be disgusting. My reaction in my mind when I walked in.yuk gif  Nice area and place, but the owners obviously learned how to clean in Bizarro World. LOL We weren’t expecting luxury accommodations, but we expected the place to be clean and fresh. In case you’re wondering if I checked the reviews before booking, I did. They had a high rating in March when I booked, but most of the reviews in April and May aren’t good. No, I didn’t check the reviews right before we left. 

I’m usually pretty good at planning our trips, but I’ll file this incident as a learning experience. People post their best pictures, and who in their right mind would say, “Oh, by the way, my house reeks of death and butt.” It all boils down to the fact that our cleaning habits are different. We clean, and they don’t. 😊

A decision had to be made. We either stay and risk contracting some kind of infection like MRSA or LEAVE!! Of course, we chose the latter.

Side note: My sister arrived in the middle of the night because her flight was delayed. When she realized the iron they had provided didn’t work, she bought one from the local Walmart along with a small ironing board. End of side note.

A few hours after my husband and I arrived, we politely spoke to one of the owners to let her know we were checking out. We also let her know my sister was leaving them a brand new iron and board for their future guests. Her less than professional attitude and her snappy confrontational tone were enough to make anyone’s eyebrows raise. #checkyourheart It seemed like she was looking for an argument.

Bait of Satan? Maybe. We didn’t fall for it, though. Lord, thank you for Your strength.

Here’s the thing. Sometimes you have to have the Guts Not To Fight Back. Why argue about something that’s out of our control? Yes, we could’ve told her a thing or two or 100 about what was wrong with the place, but I guarantee she already knew. It would’ve turned into a screaming match because that’s how she presented herself. Instead, we left the place cleaner than it was with a brand new iron and board.

Fortunately, my nephew’s place was available and close by. I called Airbnb a few days later to report the incident and requested a full refund. I just got the refund this morning minus a small service charge. The Airbnb reps asked if I had taken pictures or a video. We live in a world where your conversations are secretly recorded, and your most embarrassing or heinous tragedies are posted on every social media outlet for entertainment purposes. Documentation is definitely important, but I didn’t think about taking any pictures or video. Me getting out of there.running

However, I will eventually post a review to let people know what to expect. 

We had a fantastic time in Hawai’i, and this incident won’t stop me from using Airbnb in the future. As I said above, this was a learning experience. I’m glad we kept our cool. It all worked out without us getting all worked up. LOL

If you find yourself in a situation that is out of your control and the person standing in front of you is tripping, take a deep breath (unless it stinks 😉) and #checkyourheart!

I’m not exempt, I’m just . . .

Blogging It Out.



Isn’t Enough

I’ve been trying to write this post for months. Literally. It’s been sitting in my draft folder like,

spanky gif LOL

I think “trying” is the problem, so I’m just going to write and see what happens. I pray whoever takes the time to read this will be blessed!

First up, transparency.

My husband and I had to make a significant change in our lives. Since I’m honest, we waited a year because…uh, we didn’t want to do it. We were comfortable in certain areas of our lives, and we feared the unknown. By the time we decided to be obedient to the Lord, things had gotten pretty interesting, to say the least. You all know that changing churches can be kind of a big deal. I think what made our situation teeter toward shocking is that we didn’t say anything until it was time for the mandatory evacuation. LOL

Will-Smith-Goes-From-Happy-Laugh-To-Very-Serious I’m laughing, but I’m serious.

Finally, we knew what we had to do. We met with our then pastor twice and was very clear that our leaving had nothing to do with the ministry and that we would recommend the church to anyone. (And we have.) He asked questions which made us discuss things that had nothing to do with why we were leaving. Again, had we let him know a year prior that it was coming, things would’ve been different. To be honest, my husband and I didn’t want to leave which is why it took an entire year for us to go. (Maybe I’ll post the whole story one day.) Check this out. During the 6.5 years we were there, I probably learned and grew more than all the prior years I had been saved, combined. I won’t bore you with any more details except that we left on a good note. Unexpected, but good as evidenced by the nice email the pastor sent out regarding our departure.

I thank God for His mercy and grace because we chose to be disobedient by staying as long as we did which shows that we clearly didn’t trust God in that capacity.

Of course, the enemy will try to use anyone who will allow him space. Ephesians 6:12 says it best, For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

No matter what people have said, boldly in our faces or cowardly behind our backs, we have kept our eyes on Jesus and our mouths closed. (Character/integrity before feelings.) Because of that significant and unexpected (though delayed) change that we HAD to make, we are at a point in our lives where we WOULDN’T be had we not listened to the Lord. It’s not for anyone else to understand.

Now, onto the #CheckYourHeart topic.

I know that was a long introduction, but trust me it was necessary.

Lately, I’ve had several conversations with people who are contemplating leaving their church. Most of them have been Christians for over a decade and operate in some leadership capacity. The reasons varied, but the leading and most commonly stated was they were no longer being fed.

A good friend of mine told me to post what I told her because it gave her a different perspective for attending church, so here it goes.

You definitely have to hear from Jesus and listen when making any decision including staying at or leaving a church. Whether you decide to stay or leave, you have to focus on Jesus and connect with Him daily, more than ever. If He hasn’t told you to go, then there’s a reason for you to stay. Take in more of Him than ANYTHING, so when the pastor (or whoever is speaking) miss it in his message, you won’t be affected by it. Go Full So That You Won’t Feel Unfed!

I go to church to worship Jesus and to serve. Do I expect to hear a word from the Lord? Yes, of course. Does it matter who delivers it? No. Here’s the thing. It’s not the goings-on at the church that gives me strength, peace, joy, validation, life, breath, ability, etc. It is my relationship with Jesus. I must consume more of Him than anything else in my life. What I used to do Isn’t Enough.

It took me a long time to realize that I had been doing a lot in my own strength and I think there’s a lot of people…God-fearing people who are doing the same. We have to rely on the Lord. The people I mentioned are all super busy with their lives as well as serving in their churches. If we don’t leave ample time in our schedule to connect  (pray, study, read & meditate on the Word, etc.) with our Source (God), feeling empty and unfed is inevitable. He’s our lifeline.

I may be going out on a limb with my next statement. For those of us who have been in the Lord for a while, the messages we hear at church should be a confirmation or a reminder of what we’ve studied. Ask not what your church can do for you, ask what you can do for your church. LOL (Yeah, I know JFK said country. Country didn’t fit so I improvised.)

On another note, sometimes it’s necessary to take a break from serving/activities in church and outside of the church. We have to take care of ourselves. The word “no” is a complete sentence. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about needing a break. It’s all about finding the right balance.

I’m not exempt. I’m just…

Blogging It Out!! Oh, and I guess since I stopped trying, the end happened. LOL

I can’t wait to read your comments. 🙂

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Turn It Around

Here we are 11 days into spring and 21 days into good old Daylight saving time. Don’t cha just love losing an hour of sleep. Yippee! 🙂

fake laugh gif

If you sense a bit of sarcasm, you’re absolutely correctamundo. I’m not a fan of daylight saving time at all, but I’ll get over it. LOL

What are your thoughts on daylight saving time?

On another note, Southern California is officially out of its drought. YIPPEE!! No sarcasm there at all. The wildflowers are in bloom, our lawn is greener than it has been in years, and the monarch butterflies paid us a visit on their way to Oregon. In my area, the poppies are all the rage, but my favorite wildflower is the tidytips (Layia platyglossa), featured in the photo. I love their simplicity. Although I’m not the type of person who enjoys receiving flowers as a gift, I appreciate their beauty in their natural habitat.

Now on with the topic, #CheckYourHeart!

I recently had a conversation with someone who I haven’t spoken with in a long while. Honestly, I was a little leery about returning the phone call. As a matter of fact, I didn’t until the next day. The call started off with the usual catch up questions: How are you? What’s new? Do you still live in the same place?

The latter is always surprising. How often do owners sell their home’s and move away? LOL Anywho, as the conversation progressed, she got down to the nitty-gritty. Complaints! I knew they were coming.

Usually, when we choose someone to vent to, it’s because we know the person will be able to relate to what we’re talking about, or at least we hope they will. We want someone to say we have a right to feel a certain way, or our reaction was justified. It’s a normal part of being human.

Here’s where I had to check my heart. Her stories were all TOO familiar. I felt the sting of disappointment as she poured out her heart. The conversation could’ve quickly turned into a backbiting session, and I’m sure the enemy was sitting right there waiting like. . .

michael eating popcorn LOL

I Thessalonians 5:11 says, So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.

It’s so easy to join a negative conversation. I mean, we can all tell stories about people who have wronged us and it’s quite exhilarating. However, as Christians, we need to Turn It Around.

I could’ve added A LOT of negativity to that conversation. I mean A LOT. Instead, I listened (to a point) to show her that I cared and then I encouraged her. I let her know I could definitely relate to how she was feeling. The last thing people need is for us to act like nothing bothers us. Transparency is essential.

Engaging in a conversation like the one I had can be kind of tricky. Because the person wants so badly for their feelings to be validated, they may drop hints that some bad things have been said about you too. Know what I mean? That’s when you really have to #CheckYourHeart. You have to recognize that it’s all derived from their hurt. In my Forrest Gump voice,

forrest gump gif LOL

At the end of the conversation, she told me she felt better and encouraged. She realized she needed to focus on the Lord. I’ve been there…we’ve all been there.

If you find yourself complaining and irritated about everything under the sun, or deliberately trying to hurt someone with your words, you may need to #CheckYourHeart.

I’m not exempt. I’m just…

Blogging it out! Have a blessed week and keep on praying!!